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coocoolah:

“I have never been able to understand people with consistent lives – people who, for example, grow up in a liberal Catholic household and stay that way; or who in junior high school are already laying down a record on which to run for president one day. Imagine having no discarded personalities, no vestigial selves, no visible ruptures with yourself, no gulf of self-forgetfulness, nothing that requires explanation, no alien version of yourself that requires humor and accommodation. What kind of life is that?”

— Michael Warner, “Tongues Untied” in Curiouser: On the Queerness of Children (216)

monkeybean29:

metrosexualgangster:

shittycryptids:

A snake that’s wide instead of long

Please don’t mind my real fast MS paint version of this.

one-time-i-dreamt:

I was at a sleepover with Doctor Strange and we watched the Doctor Strange movie and the entire time Doctor Strange was bitching about how bad the Doctor Strange movie was.

foxxycleopatra:

“i can’t figure out this problem”

teacher: use your head

theceilingisconcrete:

slavicafire:

sometimes things are just simple and there’s not much more to them. the friend that didn’t message you back was just tired. no one even noticed that you didn’t wash your hair that day. there was no ill will behind that one comment you got. the shadow creature you’ve seen in the corner of your eye yesterday just blinked with their seven eyes, it wasn’t meant to mock you. when the dark asked for your soul and signature there was no asterisks and plots behind it. when death knocked on your door it wasn’t a joke it just wanted you to let it in

cerulean-beekeeper:

carryonmyfallencas:

emkaniff:

emkaniff:

yall: this celebrity did a bad thing

me: it be like that sometimes 

ok this post canceled due to recent events…I was talkin about some 26 year old pop star calling things “gay” in 2007 not a 50 year old hollywood producer who’s been actively pursuing 14 year old girls since 1976

a very important distinction. it’s one thing to fuck up, as all of us are apt to do, and it’s another thing entirely to be an abusive piece of shit with a history of sexual harassment.

Exactly.

And online culture frustratingly does not seem to understand that.  Everything is An Outrage™ nowadays. The 26 pop star calling something “gay” isn’t ideal sure, but it’s not exactly on the same level of decades of sexual abuse, you know?  Like, the response to the first is “hey, maybe you shouldn’t be doing that” and the second is “you belong in jail.”

becausegoodheroesdeservekidneys:

elfwreck:

toastpiercer:

peteseeger:

communitygardens:

xenosagaepisodeone:

sure he’s well versed in leftist theory but does he do the dishes

this is such a succinct critique of  male leftists who think of it as theory only & won’t even get off their ass to clear the table

@spock-and-uhuras-jam-band literally lmao

She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink

I remember my wife often saying how exhausting it was for her to have to tell me what to do all the time. It’s why the sexiest thing a man can say to his partner is “I got this,” and then take care of whatever needs taken care of.

I always reasoned: “If you just tell me what you want me to do, I’ll gladly do it.”

But she didn’t want to be my mother. She wanted to be my partner, and she wanted me to apply all of my intelligence and learning capabilities to the logistics of managing our lives and household.

She wanted me to figure out all of the things that need done, and devise my own method of task management.

I wish I could remember what seemed so unreasonable to me about that at the time.

It’s not just about equal division of labor. It’s also about, “this thing is important to her. If he ignores it, he’s saying that what she wants is irrelevant to him.”

And that’s a guy saying, “I’m only spending time with you because it’s pleasant for me.” He’s already decided what’s “really” important, and her input is not welcome.

If he won’t do the dishes and laundry, he’s looking for fun, not a partnership. And his “leftist” ideals will be the same–something he studies because it’s interesting to him; a form of activism that he thinks will bring him a better life. If he can’t do household tasks that matter to a person he loves, he sure as hell can’t support policies that help people whose struggles he doesn’t even acknowledge are real.

The phrase for this is ‘mental load’. Where you have to be the one planning, all the time; when we need to buy food, clean the house, pack/unpack the dishwasher, start making dinner, do the chores, etc. It’s exhausting.